Third Contact

So now;

 if I paid these guys $2k to meet "six to eight women"  I'm laying out $250 at least to meet women.  I'm starting to think I'd be doing better to throw money out on the dance floor of the Ozone.  Or go to a strip club, that would be a great night for that money!  But I'm committed, and the third contact rolls in.

  A nice woman.  Really, really nice.   Quite successful too, involved in the auction business. Good kids that are doing well.  Friendly and fun to talk to.  And lived in a small town 215 miles to the west, out in the western half of southeastern Nebraska.  Sorry, I said I would drive as far as Lincoln.  I told 'em!

Second contact

My second contact was due.  The email was received, the name and number noted.  And so I made the call.
Hi, this is J, how are you?
Good, good..
Small talk ensued.  Then she made a remark about going to Temple.
Temple, huh?  What is that?
Well, I'm a devout(is there any other kind?) Jehovah's Witness.  I go several nights a week, teach Bible class to the kids, and service on the weekends.
 Hmm, as a friendly atheist, I let the fine folks at Nebraskadating.com talk me into calling myself an agnostic.  But I wondered why they would match me up with a devout JW.  I was not going to go there, not for a minute.
I don't think we will work out, Sally, but thanks for the talks and the time!

First Contact

I get an email. I have a match.  Her name is Mary.  Some brief stats;

Mary
Age: 44
Main Phone: XXX XXX XXXX
Alt. Phone:
Height: 5'4"
Body Type: Average
Hair Color: Dark Brown
Eye Color: Green
Marital Status: Separated
Occupation:XXXXXXXX
Residence: Omaha

Some Hobbies and Interests:
Bowling, Walking/hiking, Pilates,  Symphony, Concerts, Museum and Arts, Visiting historical sites and monuments, Visiting State Capitols, Plays, Opera,Shopping, Volunteering

 and a request to make contact within 72 hours.   Appears someone has simply clicked on a list of suggested Hobbies and Interests.   Body type average.  That can mean a lot of different things.  I give her a call.

Hi, is this Mary?  This is J.  How are you?

Oh, good, how are you?

I'm fine.  I was matched with you from the dating service.

Oh, okay.

We talk for a bit.  A decent person.  Make plans to meet the next day.

Next day, we meet at a coffeehouse.  She is as average as me, which is fine. Turns out she has been a member for 3 months and this is her first contact.   As we talk, and I get to know her, I find she had a stroke, and has limited use of half her body.  

If she was my significant other or my wife, I would have stood by her forever.  I was actually hoping for an activity partner, a woman who liked to walk and bike and hike and play volleyball. I really don't think I can make this work.  We have a polite, kind of sad conversation.  We say our goodbyes and go our separate ways.

  I file a feedback on her, and ask to meet another.

 

The Pitch

Today is the day.  I drive to the offices of Omahalove.com and Nebraskadating.com.  Outside, there is a 30ish, attractive, typically self absorbed woman smoking and making a call. I register a 0 on her attention level as I walk in.  She is the receptionist because there is noone at the receptionist desk. I walk in, see one woman on the phone in her office, other offices with doors closed, and a waiting area.  Into the waiting area and grab a coke and a cookie and sit down to read magazines.  After a couple minutes office woman notices me.  "Hi, have you been helped?' 'Not yet, just waiting around here.'  'Oh, okay!  Well, my name is Faith(names have been changed for this story),give me a minute and then come into my office.'  I'm wondering if Faith is her real name as I take a seat in her office.
Okay, why are you here?
Well, I was on your website, and I got this call, so I thought I'd check it out.
Great!  Well, let me ask you a few questions, see if you are what we want for our site.  Any felonies, restraining orders?
No, no..
Okay, let me see your license and we have to run it, then go from there.
Hand her license, she returns soon.
Okay, it all looks good.  Let me tell you about myself.  I've been doing this for 5 years, i absolutely love it.  i met my husband on a dating site.  I have 17 marriages where I've arranged the meetings!  Tell me about yourself!
52 years old, divorced for 15 years..
Oh you are ready!  Ready for a serious relationship!
Yes, I am, I've had a few in those 15 years. I'm a bit concerned though.  I'm sure all your women want an executive type, and I am a skilled tradesman.
No, not at all.  What women want is a man with a good heart..a good guy.  I have got lists of women who want a man like you.  Where do you look for dates?
I meet friends of friends, pretty much given up on POF and the local bars.  At 52, everyone in the bars is a lot younger than me, you know?
Oh, yes!  I have got a lot of ladies, right off the top of my head, who would be a match for you.  Is this something you think you'd like to pursue?
Possibly..
Here is what I can offer you.  Pulls out sheet of paper.  Here is the plans that we offer.
I look at the sheet.  It has multiple plans.  the cheapest one is $5995.She continues her pitch.
Different plans allow you to meet different numbers of women, blah blah blah.
No, I'm sorry, that is far too much.  I was thinking I would max out at less than 10% of this!
 Hm, let me talk to my manager.  Scoots out door.  returns quickly.
Okay, I can do this for you. I  can set you up with 6-8 ladies for $2000.  Possibly more, if circumstances warrant.
Like what circumstances?
Like, if you do really try, but there are compatibility issues.
I think.  every ounce of common sense tells me to leave, but I'm a sucker for a sales pitch.
Okay, I'll take it.
Great!   Leaps up, runs my card, I sign the contract.  
Great, I have got some great women in mind for you!
Sounds like you have someone in mind.
Oh yes, yes.  Well, Thanks, that all for tonight, you have a great night!
Okay, thanks, bye!
Out the door I go, regretting the transaction, and hopeful for good results, and wondering what in the heck I have gotten myself into.  We'll see soon...

Next Post; First Contact

  A fine day in early summer, 2013.  I'm out bicycling on the trails in the city.  i get a phone call.  It's a very nice sounding young lady.  All the salespeople are nice sounding, nice looking young ladies.  She tell me that she's calling because I filled out an application online.  I did?  Okay, that is likely.  They have billboards that say OMAHALOVE.COM all over the city.  She chats me up.  After I give her my vitals; age, weight, income, blah blah, she tells me that she has lots of women in her files that would be interested in meeting a regular guy like me.  

  Well, that sounds nice.  I've been looking to date someone steady.  Or even not so steady.  I've used the local POF website but it's old to me.  And I've come to the point where I hate the bars.  So I'm open to a new way of meeting women.  I make an appointment to see her the next day.  My only instructions are; make a list of 5 things I must have in a woman, and 5 thing I cannot tolerate.      

I'm damned average.  I'm 5'7', HWP, brown hair, green eyes, 51 years old,and I  live in Omaha,NE, which is a damned average town.  I've been divorced for about a decade.  I've had lots of relationships, but haven't got married again yet.  I've been on the dating site, POF.com for almost 10 years.  I haven't been active there continuously, sporadically would be accurate.  Also that would be an accurate description of my success there, but that is another story.  I'm here to talk about  omahalove.com and nebraskadating.com. And that is a story that begins with a phone call...